Be a friend

I am willing to be a friend. In order to do this, I first need to reel in my emotional responses and learn how to listen. I took a class on active listening and I realized that I have not been listening to my partner – not really listening anyway. My own filters and fears have prevented me from being the girlfriend I want to be. I have learned that I do not have to voice every emotion I have and that waiting to see how things play out helps me see that my input leads to a bad reaction instead of what is there. I need to seriously work on rebuilding that trust with him so he can talk to me again. I am making a promise to never be a grave digger and rehash things from the past and use what he has told me as ammunition against him. I have to be honest and dependable with this vow and not go back on my word – even to myself.